With the holidays fast approaching, many of you will be invited to parties and get togethers. If you are stressing because you are not the world's best conversationalist, don't worry, you're not alone. I have some tips for you to help overcome any new situation where you are meeting people for the first time and mingling.
To help ease your anxiety, remember, most conversation flubs are done by people who talk too much, not too little so always think before you speak, and remember to listen. When you begin a conversation with someone, put aside your thoughts about what to say next, and instead concentrate on what the other person is saying to you. The person you are speaking with will enjoy talking with you much more if you are actively listening, and the conversation will flow back and forth much more naturally because you will be able to branch out from what is being discussed. Be sure to make eye contact, nod occasionally and make small comments; it shows you are listening to what the other person is saying,
It's also helpful to have a good grasp of what's going on in the world currently. You don't have to be an expert on everything. Just know a few things about what's going on in the local paper or the national news. Watching TV news shows should provide you with enough info to make you pretty interesting to talk to. Have an idea of which sports teams are winning and which aren't, etc. You get the picture.
Things to stay away from: politics, sex, and religion. They can potentially start unpleasant conversation. Many people feel passionately about these subjects and are prepared to argue over them. You really don't want to listen to someone force their views and opinions upon you and you don't want to start any arguments.
Remember to practice talking with people whenever you can. Waiting on line in the store is a great place, so is at the post office or at the salon. Everyday life provides you many opportunities to get comfortable with small talk conversation. Take advantage of it.
Now get out there and have some fun!
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